Five Questions Women Should Ask before Sex

By Lenon Honor

A woman’s decision to have sex with a man is not a decision that should be taken lightly. There are so many undesirable outcomes that can occur when a woman makes an uninformed decision about having sex. Asking critical questions should be part of the decision making process. These things being said, here are 5 questions that a woman should ask before having sex with a man.

Question #1: Am I in a positive relationship with him?

When a woman is in a positive relationship with a man she will be in a secure position wherein she is properly treated, cared for, and loved. When a woman is in a positive relationship with a man, sex and sexuality becomes a natural expression of that positive relationship. Within a positive relationship there is no harm, abuse, or betrayal and therefore the expression of sex within that relationship will be kind, careful, and honest.

Furthermore, a woman should consider the fact that sexual intercourse could lead to the conception of a child. Ideally, a woman would want to be in a positive relationship with the man that she is having sex with so that, in the event that a child is conceived, she will be secure in knowing that the man that she is in a positive relationship with will be there for her and for their child indefinitely. Again, the first question that a woman should ask before having sex with a man is: Am I in a positive relationship with him?

Question #2: Is he conducting himself as a responsible man?

This is an important question for all women to ask because the notion of a woman allowing an irresponsible man to place his penis into her vagina is irrational, illogical, and unreasonable. Women must understand that sexual interaction with irresponsible men will always lead to physical, sexual, and emotional trauma. Whether a woman is in a committed relationship or not, if she is dealing with an irresponsible man she will suffer.

One of the challenges that many women face is that they do not have an understanding about the differences between a responsible man and an irresponsible man. In the absence of knowing the differences between the two, many women allow irresponsible men to enter into their vaginas. This is why it is to a woman’s benefit to always ask critical questions about the character of the man that they are considering having sex with. One of the critical questions happens to be, “Is he conducting himself as a responsible man?”

Question #3: Do I know his sexual history?

A man’s sexual history will reveal a great deal about his character. Women must understand that if you ask a man about his sexual history and he does not want to talk about his sexual history then it will be to your benefit to not have sex with him. As a matter of full disclosure, sex and sexual intercourse should be discussed openly, honestly, and maturely amongst men and women prior to any sexual activity. A woman should sit down with the man and they should discuss his complete sexual history. The discussion should include dialogue about: All of the sexual partners that he has had in his life. The types of sexual experiences that he has had in his life. The regularity at which he masturbates. His past exposure to pornography. His current exposure to pornography. The type of pornography that he currently views e.g.: Soft, Hardcore, Bondage, Discipline, Sadomasochism, Femdom, Rough Sex, Spanking, Snuff, Gore, Scat, Facial, Anal, Menstrual, Bareback, Bestiality, Anime, Oral, Insertion, Double Penetration, Fisting, Etc. The dialogue should also include: The type of sex that he is currently into. The sexual expectations that he currently has. Whether or not his sexual expectations are in line with what the woman is comfortable with. Whether or not he has any sexually transmitted diseases, etc.

It takes a very mature man to openly and honestly share his sexual history with the woman that he wishes to have sex with. If a man does not want to talk about his sexual history then this may be an indicator that his sexual history is not a positive one. By keeping his negative sexual history secret, the man is also able to keep his true character secret. If a woman wishes to avoid future suffering then she should not have sex with such a man. I understand that asking a man to reveal his sexual history may seem to be extreme but the truth of the matter is that a woman should love herself enough to get as much information about the man as possible prior to deciding to have sex with him.

One may ask, “Shouldn’t a man ask the woman about her sexual history?” The answer is, “Yes, a man should ask a woman about her sexual history.” In fact, if a man does not ask a woman about her sexual history then this would mean that he does not care about her sexual history. If he does not care about her sexual history then he does not care about his own sexual safety. If he does not care about his own sexual safety then it would be illogical to believe that he would care about the sexual safety of the woman that he wishes to have sex with. Logically, therefore, it would be unreasonable for a woman to allow a man who does not care about her sexual safety to place his penis into her vagina.

Question #4: Is he the type of man that I would want to raise a family with?

This question should cause a woman to think more carefully about sex and sexual intercourse. There are some women who simply do not value their vaginas to the degree that they should. As a result they may engage in permissive sexual intercourse without considering the possibility that they may become pregnant by a man who is not interested in raising a family.

Even if birth control methods are being used, the possibility of conceiving a child with a man who is not interested in raising a family, should give a woman enough reason to pause and to ask the question, “Is he the type of man that I would want to raise a family with?” If the man is not the type of man that she would want to raise family with then the woman should not have sex with him.

I must also add that even if a woman does not want to create a family, or is unable to conceive children, she should still ask this question as a matter of proper intellectual process.

Question #5: Is he the type of man that would be a good father to my children?

This is an important question to ask because it speaks to the quality and character of the man that the woman is considering having sex with. Again, if sexual intercourse takes place then the possibility of conceiving a child should be enough incentive for a woman to pause and ask the question, “Is he the type of man that would be a good father to my children?”

As stated before, even if a woman does not want to create a family, or is unable to conceive children, she should still ask this question as a matter of proper intellectual process. The main issue that this question brings to light is the character of the man that the woman is considering having sex with. If the man is not the type of man that would be a good father to her children then the woman should not have sex with him. This also means that if the man already has children from a prior relationship, and if the man is not a good father to the children that he already has, then the woman should not have sex with him.

Here again are the 5 questions that a woman should ask before having sex with a man: Question #1 Am I in a positive relationship with him? Question #2 Is he conducting himself as a responsible man? Question #3 Do I know his sexual history? Question #4 Is he the type of man that I would want to raise a family with? Question #5  Is he the type of man that would be a good father to my children?

Women, understand that if you answer “No” to any of these questions then it will be in your best interest to not have sex with him. By not having sex with him you will keep yourself safe from a great deal of pain, suffering, and sadness.

Lenon Honor sends you lots of love, peace, and positivity. Check out this article and Lenon Honor’s video content at www.lenonhonor.com.

One Response to Five Questions Women Should Ask before Sex

  1. Great Article. Lenon Honor is a brilliant mentor and his information is always helpful to me so keep it coming.

    Greetings from England, Kent

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